• Eunice J. Hart

Raise A Girl's Self-Esteem: Teach Her About Hygiene

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I think most people get cleaned up, fix themselves up really nice, look in the mirror, and think “Jean Claude Van Damme, I look good!” It’s a confidence booster. I know people who do it and they’re not even going anywhere. I guess they just needed a boost.

At one time or another, we've seen THAT girl or been THAT girl. You know the one. Her hair is not done, clothes unkempt, and, yes, she kind of smells. You maybe see this girl every day or occasionally but, you see her regularly enough to conclude that she's like this every day. What do you do?

Do you just dismiss it as a phase? Do you just figure her mom will take care of it?

What if you see her enough to know she doesn't look super comfortable in her own skin? Would you still dismiss it?

Yes for most, their parents will take care of having that talk with them. But what about the others? Is there are girl coming up on puberty, already in puberty, or a teen that you see regularly that's constantly in this condition?

Have you ever thought about just asking? You don't have to do it bluntly but, begin to forge a friendship so that you both feel comfortable enough to broach the topic.

This is from

As soon as puberty hits and the hormones start flowing, a preteen's hygiene requirements change dramatically in many ways. But experts say a lot of parents avoid discussing the subject.
"Parents too often assume that 10- or 11-year-olds will somehow naturally learn what they need to know about hygiene," says Charles Wibbelsman, MD, chairman of the Chiefs of Adolescent Medicine for Kaiser Permanente of Northern California and co-author of The Teenage Body Book. "But that's not true. Someone has to teach them."

You see this young lady regularly enough to know she's trying to hide in plain sight but, she can't because her appearance is inconspicuous. That's her self-esteem going down. She either doesn't care about her appearance or she doesn't know any better.

Sure, you can talk to her parents. It's probably a good start. However, for some, just trying to forge a friendship so that you can get to the bottom of it can do wonders. Lifting this young lady's self-esteem may be as simple as advising her on her hygiene.

You can do a lot with a little. I saw girls in high school who didn't have the latest or the fanciest but, they were always clean, neat, and smelled nice.

If you don't have kids or haven't gotten to that point with them, here are some things you might want to go over according to

  • Showering

  • Washing Hair

  • Using Deodorant or Antiperspirant

  • Changing Clothes (Keeping whatever clothes you have clean)

  • Maintaining Good Oral Health

  • Understanding the body (for girls that's menstruation & breast development)

Whether it's your own daughter coming up on puberty or another girl you see frequently enough to care, sometimes lifting her self-esteem can be as simple as encouraging her to look her best.

Sometimes it could be a sign of something more but, you never know unless you ask.

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